Questions People Sometimes AskHow can talking about yourself help?
Everyone is challenged in their lives by some difficulty from time to time. This can often have a serious impact on our ability to enjoy our lives, or work, or simply manage day to day demands, and it can detrimentally affect relationships with friends or family or work colleagues. Usually we can manage to deal with the problem, but sometimes we can't and we don't know why and we need help.
It may take some time to realize we need help, so we suffer, and while we suffer often others suffer as well. However, if we try to talk about our problems, what's difficult, what hurts, with friends or family, we are often misunderstood or ignored or simply not heard. Fortunately, it is possible to find help, to be heard, to resolve what afflicts you, by talking to a counsellor.
Discussing your difficulties with a counsellor in a safe, confidential setting, can give you the opportunity to explore your difficulties, to examine how your life's experiences have shaped you, to understand what's happening in your relationships, to find and remove the splinter in your mind left behind by some long forgotten trauma. By working closely with a counsellor you can understand your life more fully, change your life, and live the life you want.
What does counselling involve and how long will it take?
Many people are uncertain what counselling involves or how long it may take to enjoy the results. Our first meeting will allow me to get an idea of what you expect from counselling and what you want to change in your life. Sometimes it is not immediately apparent what may be required to bring meaningful change or how long it may take. and it is difficult to predict the duration of the work. Someone experiencing stress and conflict at work would require a different treatment from someone who is "just not happy", or someone who no longer feels comfortable in crowds, or a couple who have lost the intimacy in their relationship. Based on this initial discussion, we agree a goal that will focus and direct our efforts throughout our work toward a positive outcome.
By exploring what you want from therapy and to help me formulate an effective treatment plan, I suggest working together for a minimum of six sessions, meeting for an hour at the same time each week. This will give us both sufficient time to get to know each other and gain a better understanding of what you really want and need. Usually by the sixth session we both have a clearer idea of what is required to resolve your difficulty, as well as a clearer perception of how long it may take to achieve it. This duration of counselling may be all that is required, but if it is agreed more time would be helpful, we can then decide whether to progress the work further.